Isolation Won’t Heal

“I’ll stay here for a while and maybe in time, they will realized that I am right.”

No, they will not. Truth is, you are once again.. isolating yourself.

You thought it’s going to help. You thought people will miss you. You thought people will reach out sooner or later. Guess what? Most people don’t. People, left on their own, won’t even notice that your presence is gone. I know that you are in pain and you don’t have the energy to face the world. Yet, isolating yourself is not the answer.

Isolation makes you a prisoner of condemnation

The kind of condemnation that doesn’t come from the people around you but the condemnation created and especially constructed by your own self. You let yourself cling on to this “privacy” where in fact you are treating yourself as an “exile.” You distant yourself from people thinking that it would lessen the suffering yet dear one, let me tell you that isolation won’t mend anything. It will make you bleed more. It will make you drown from the thoughts that the enemy sweetly planted to your heart and mind.

Don’t punish yourself. You are no longer a prisoner of your past. God has won your heart. Jesus already conquered your sins. He is everything He has promised to be. Joy has a name. Healing has a name. Freedom has a name. Victory has a name. All that is Jesus.

Beloved, isolation is not for you. Since the beginning, love is for you. Nothing changed. He is still here for you.

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. (Romans 8:38)

Isolation throws away humility

When you isolate yourself, it is your flesh demanding for you to be understood. For you to be acknowledged. For you to be affirmed. Now, all these are good. Yet do they make you even a step closer to being Christlike? Sometimes, we focus too much to be loved rather than being the one who loves. 

Jesus is perfect. Jesus has it all but for us He humbled himself and became poor. He wholeheartedly stoop down to our level, emptied himself, reached out to our sinner lives, and loved us to the point of death.

You see, isolation shouts, “What’s in it for me?” while humility says, “In this brokenness, how can I love more?”

Isolation breaks accountability

Isn’t that what the enemy wants? By isolating yourself, you are making the enemy’s job much easier. The enemy would rather come after the struggling lone believer than the group of believers having fellowship and building each other up in Christ.

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12)

Isolation will never count as one of your “alone time.” Isolation is never healthy. Your emotions will never subside in this distant land. You’re not winning every time you ignore text messages from your friends or whenever you purposely reject calls which you know will lead to “How’s your heart?” conversations. In this body of Christ, we are meant to carry each other’s burdens. Let your accountable partners remind you of who you are in Christ. These are the people who choose to overlook all your “despites” and who have made up their mind to bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, and endures all things with you.

Run for accountability. Renounce isolation.

Surrender not isolation

God’s love knows no distance. The four walls of your room will not shield you from being pursued by the Lord. Pretending to sleep over and over and over again will never turn your mourning into dancing. Eating ice cream from the bucket will only give temporary comfort. Sweetheart, nothing compares to the peace that transcends all understanding which you can only get from Christ.

With arms stretched wide, lay it all down to the Lord. Surrender it all. Let your weaknesses be recognized by the King who can use it for His glory. Let your desperation of healing be known. Let this fall be a testimony of His goodness and His faithfulness over your life.

Little that you know, there’s someone, somewhere in this world, who is also isolating himself and by breaking your isolation, God will use you to reach out to this poor soul. Get up now. Go on to loving again. God will meet you where you are.